What would you have done if you had a girlfriend who won’t let you join the army because she is scared of missing you

Good Morning,

Sometimes, it's important to prioritise what you truly want over what others expect of you. I would recommend taking the time to sit down and carefully weigh the positives and negatives.

From personal experience, my partner hasn’t always wanted me to be away, as she naturally misses me during deployments. However, she understands the commitment I’ve made to the British Army and recognises that this is the career path I’ve chosen.

Ultimately, the decision has to be yours. A career in the Army can be a short chapter in your life or a long-term commitment spanning 20 years or more. It is a significant undertaking, but the Ministry of Defence recognises this and provides support not only to soldiers but also to their families.

if you would like to go through the benefits we have in the British Army, I am more than happy to discuss further.

Hi Matthew thank you for your message, it’s just I’ve wanted to be in the army since I was younger age then I met my gf we have been together for 3 years now.. but the army keeps calling my name lol and yes I would love to go through the benefits if that is possible thank you.

good afternoon,

You're very welcome. Below are what I believe to be some of the key benefits the British Army offers its soldiers:

• Career Development: Access to structured career progression and leadership opportunities.
• World-Class Training: Receive high-quality training in a wide range of trades and specialisations.
• Education and Qualifications: Gain recognised qualifications and transferable skills.
• Job Security: Enjoy stable employment with a clear career path.
• Travel Opportunities: Experience different cultures and countries through deployments and exercises.
• Strong Camaraderie: Build lifelong friendships and a strong sense of belonging.
• Physical Fitness: Maintain a high level of physical health and discipline.
• Pension and Benefits: Access to a competitive pension scheme and comprehensive benefits.
• Support for Families: The MOD provides support services for both soldiers and their families.
• Adventure and Challenge: Engage in unique and exciting experiences that push your limits.
• Community Respect: Earn recognition and respect from the public and local communities.
• Personal Growth: Develop resilience, confidence, and leadership skills.
• Healthcare and Accommodation: Access to free medical care and subsidised housing.

The British Army is more than just a job — it's a life-changing opportunity that builds character, resilience, and a strong sense of purpose. It offers a unique environment where you’re constantly challenged, supported, and empowered to grow both personally and professionally. While it’s natural for loved ones to have concerns, especially about time apart, it’s important to remember that this is your journey. Choosing to serve is a decision rooted in commitment, ambition, and a desire to make a difference. With the right communication and mutual understanding, relationships can grow stronger through shared respect for the path you've chosen.

If there is any other concerns or more questions, do not hesitate to reply.

I am More than happy to help !

That’s perfect thank you Matthew, i will have a proper talk to her and hopefully she will change her mind

You are more than welcome.